I'm kind of in a situation where i need some advice. XW wants 11yr D to come to Georgia where she lives. Doesn't want the older D to go, just 11yr. Last time I sent her is was a disaster where she wanted to come home 4 days early.
To this day XW has shown No interest in these girls lives. Now all of a sudden she wants D to visit. Of course, being the only perent these kids have had for the last year, I am against it. I cannot be so sure that she can keep my D safe with what happened last time she visited. ( New husband assulted her, and Mom did nothing.)
This woman did not call or send anything for Christmas, Oldest D turned 17 last weekend and her mother called a day later to wish her a Happy B-day. What is this woman thinking? Is this another power play? I told her that if she wants to see her D's. she needs to make an attempt to visit both of them, by coming up here and spending time with them. Of course she blew a gasket and started playing the blame game. I took as much as I could and hung up.
Now after a week of our little acounter. 11 D called Mom and asked her if she bought Christmas gifts for them and if she did, could she send them up? Mom told her that she will get them when she comes down and asked her if she had "talked me into letting her go" and if she did "when will I make arrangements?" D told me this and I blew. She puts another responsibility on me? I'm suppose to buy plane tickets for her to go. Heck. I'm not letting her go. What part of what I said didn't she understand?
I know im ranting here, but the stress level is up again and I don't have anyone else to talk to. If this was anybody's sit. What would you do? X
