He says that he cannot be happy in the relationship so the only thing left is to do something that he doesn't want to do – divorce his wife. How is that not abdicating control of your own life? So someone else makes you go against your own principles? It doesn't make sense to me
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Or maybe you told them what was wrong but never really explained how problematic it is. Deraven's xW still harasses him with this kind of stuff a year and a half after she remarried. She still has to stress to him that leaving him wasn't what she wanted but that she was FORCED into by him.
Deraven would do well for himself and his Xw to cut her off as soon as he catches a whiff that the convo is headed this direction. I assume they have kid since he converses with her at all.
People have given up their lives for other people, even given up their lives for a 'principal'. Are they responsible for the executioners decision?
Anyone who claims they were FORCED to do something is a full blown Victim. I dont acknowledge that possibility in a R between to Adults who are in possesion of free will.
