Alright, most of us have little save fantasy right now so let's put it to some entertaining use: What are the words you would most like to hear from your cheating spouse? Don't act like you haven't dreamed it and pictured it...put your little fingers to work and let's see what we get.
example: "yes, dear, you're right, I have been an idiot. I did not work on myself up to now and I used you as a scapgoat upon which to blame the failures of our relationship. From now on if there is any problem I will look to myself first, not just blame it on you. Let's recommit to one another and I will mean it this time. I will put my ring back on and settle down and go to work."
Just my fantasy...what's yours? Don't take this too seriously, ie: I don't think I'm blameless but I'd LIKE to hear this. What would the rest of you like to hear?
I have a shovel and I'm not afraid to use it. Stubby
"I simply cannot believe I told you we shouldn't be married because I'm not very interested in animals and you're not into buying very expensive clothes. What the hell was I thinking??!! How could I be any more superficial. Can you ever forgive me?"
Jeez, I could go on all night.
You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him discover it in himself. Galileo Galilei
"I'm sorry I hurt you so much. I'm emailing him right now and will break off all contact. I love you, I want you, I need you. I'm so proud of the changes you have made in the last 9 months."
The thing I would like to hear the most from my H, is something that I have been wanting to hear from him since the day we got married (and he has never said it once) and that is:
"I need you in my life"
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
I would like for my H to say: "I know you keep asking a lot of questions about my A. I realise I have been defensive. I will answer anything you ask, truthfully, entirely for 30 minutes. Let me answer the things I haven't. I will withold no information you ask; I will not claim to 'not remember' - I will endeavor to remember because I see your hurt in not knowing is worse than my hurt in trying to remember. But if I do these things, answer these questions as you ask, then please let me hold you afterwards and remind you that I love you. Let me tell you of new things about you that I will want to remember always.
wow - that's pretty deep aka - doubt if I will ever hear anything like that from my H
I guess we can always dream eh?
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
