I would like for my H to say: "I know you keep asking a lot of questions about my A. I realise I have been defensive. I will answer anything you ask, truthfully, entirely for 30 minutes. Let me answer the things I haven't. I will withold no information you ask; I will not claim to 'not remember' - I will endeavor to remember because I see your hurt in not knowing is worse than my hurt in trying to remember. But if I do these things, answer these questions as you ask, then please let me hold you afterwards and remind you that I love you. Let me tell you of new things about you that I will want to remember always.
