You are feeling and going through the exact same as me - our sitch's are the same again!!! My H takes his phone with him everywhere too which he also never used to do. It does make you suspicious but try not to let it eat you up or it will ruin what you've worked so hard for. My H stayed in the spare room for just over four weeks and has now been sleeping in our room for about four weeks and has started to kiss me on the lips now and gives me cuddles. It is a very slow painful process and like you say I think it is harder than being separated too. We are in such need of reassurance and love and affection and they aren't ready to give it in the same way they used to. The way you can give affection without physical contact which as you say needs to come from H first same as me is by doing everything else that you would do if you were happily married. I have made sure I'm really attentive to all H's other needs like making food, drinks, asking if he's OK, listening to him about his day at work, telling him to have a good time if he goes out and being happy and smiley all the time. I think this has worked for me and like I say H is now kissing me and seems to be warming up day by day. Someone on my thread has said that the last leg of the race is always the hardest and they are so right. I am scared of messing up too. Hope my suggestions are some help. Congratulations again for getting to piecing! IP
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