Yes, that's it...my H has some of that perfectionistic, negative stuff going on with me ( and the kids as well). But he can also be flaky and fun, so it's confusing. He can be very difficult to live with, and in that way, reminds me more of your H than you. My problem was taking it all too seriously. Even my kids do a better job of shrugging him off ( S12 will mutter something under his breath or directly get into it with H; D14 will roll her eyes). You can learn a lot from your kids.
