Well... I will describe to you what I do with my bf when I can tell he wants me to initiate, and I don't really feel like it either, but someone must do something, as I am now all disciplined-like about sex.
He's usually lying on his back, so I scootch up to him, lay my body along his, put my head on his chest/shoulder, and just start slowly rubbing his chest, stomache, get very close to the groin, skip it, then move to his inner thighs... perhaps accidentally rubbing against his balls. I do this for a bit, breathing in his scent, while he goes stock still, seeing where I might be taking this.
Depending on his state of dress... but let's just say you are in bed, and he just has his underwear or pj bottoms on... my hand will come back up to his lower stomache, and I will run the tips of my fingers underneath the band, close 'to home,' but not really touch any critical areas.
I'll ask him to put his hands behind his head, you know, so his arms are bent, elbows out, and I'll kiss the inside of his arms (I LOVE his pipes, man. whew).
Now, if his genital area has not grown of its own accord by this point (or even if it has), I do what I call a penis massage. Still lying close to him with my head on his chest, I will take his penis in both my hands and begin to roll it firmly, but gently, between my hands, side to side and kind of up and down, too. Everything I do, I do slowly and deliberately, as sort of punishment to him for not 'taking' me in that yummy manly way of his.
At some point, I scramble on top of him and sit on his stomach, and kiss the very sensitive places of his. Lots of yummy kissing, and if he touches me anywhere, I take his arms and put them above his head and hold them down. Wiggling your groin area on him, to get nice and comfy-cosey, helps.
At this point, I really begin to warm to my work, so to speak, and the minx in me comes out, because it becomes my point and purpose to see just how turned on I can get him, just how close I can get him to coming, without letting him do a darn thing to me. I turn it into my own little game... and well, it involves throaty laughter and soft talk, stopping and then starting, etc.
Eventually, I start getting into it, because all that teasing is now really turning me on. My own pleasure in it begins to heighten, but the whole point is to get him in a steady state of arousal, and refuse to take it one step further. I begin to enjoy my own game.
Now... I may get on 'top' of him for a few... but then I get back off... lay down next to him again... take the playing back to a massage... my mouth and tongue usually enter into the pix... you know.
If I don't tell him what I'm doing, or if he hasn't asked me what I'm up to by this point, the teasing usually prompts him to a nice animal taking of me... depending on how far I've fanned the flames.
