TTH, I seem to recall that H was going to tell you when he had contact with the OW. He also was going to suspend contact once her items were returned. Where are you at in the process? Were these your private R goals, or did he agree to it? Did he meet these expectations?
Do you think it's possible that he's trying to solve the termination issue with her? Does it sound like it's coming to and end? Is it a problem he would consider letting you help him with? Would you be willing to help him manage her, so that he can terminate the R?
Did your tone of voice promote defensiveness in him? It sounds like the conversation was short and abrupt. If you approached him like a partner, with the intent of being helpful and nonjudgmental, could there be a different outcome?
Concerned_Listener
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
