Don't push, that's all, let him be, he prob feels he's doner her wrong and seems like ow is putting it that way, so it's a double wammy on him.
========= I am still amazed at the number of things that bring the A to mind daily. Phrases, songs, places etc... I wish I knew how long this phase lasts, any guesstimates? ========= Read my last post on my thread on this board. You can remember without condemning, and all those "things" that remind you of the A will fade. It took me about 6mths of hard work to push back the mental images and thanks to God I don't marinate on the A nor ow's thoughts anymore.
It must be hard enought for him to leave such a long R w/her and then have her on his case. It might take longer than other sitches in which there is no contact, but remember to be his safe place, be his friend.
The trust will come back, slowly but it will, just make sure you always give your H the benefit of the doubt.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
