CL has great points. I also expected my H to be on the same pg as me when he came back. I wanted lots of reassurances, affection, the works. Instead I got nothing, my H was too torn from the mess he gotten himself into, had no selfconfidence and nothing to offer me. Plus, all he had to go by was bad memories of all those years of neglect and rejection of my part and a promise by me that I'd changed. It was very scary and a leap of faith for him to move back and try again.
Be her friend right now, your M needs to be built from the ground up, the affection will come later, when you connect a bit better. For the first months we barely ML, but each month the frequency increase, and it's so much better now. I used to have my low times and felt so unwanted, my H always told me to be patient and to relax.
Give it time jmad, piecing takes a while, but each moth will be better.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
