Am I piecing? I am sooooo confused

[Heywyre]

Definitely did not lose your point. I see where you are coming from and before my H had his first A, I thought "there is no way I would ever stand for my S doing that" - my oh my how things change eh?

Then after the first one, I thought my whole world had fallen apart. I said to myself, this is it, I'm not ever, ever going to go through this again. We began to rebuild. Everything I believed in was gone (or was it?). I recovered (never totally trusted again like I had before) but I recovered and moved forward, just for it to happen all over again.

And now, here I am, trying to rebuild again. Would I allow it to happen a third time and rebuild - definitely not! I have reached my boundaries and H knows that (hopefully) - I have expressed it enough times. Whether or not he chooses to believe me or not, that is his choice. I have to know where my boundaries are and stick to them. That was one of the main topics of conversation with the C - boundaries. He said a lot of couples never talk about boundaries and then they discover what one considers a boundary, the other doesn't and then they wonder why they have problems because one sees it as a problem and the other doesn't

I know where my boundaries are now, maybe I didn't before. I am hoping my H knows where mine are, because we are at the end of this game.