H had a horrible day yesterday and called me late in the afternoon to vent. I validated and let him calm down then told him some "funnies" I had received via e-mail at work that he appreciated. He called later in the evening after I had gotten home from work and seem distracted and down. I asked him what was up and he keep hemming and hawing around until I said "did you see ******* today?" to which he replied "no". I then asked him if he talked to her and he said "yes". I went out on a limb and asked him why he feels compelled to call her and he replied "It's the letting go". OW is not happy with him and H states she wants to "walk away from him with what dignity she still has intact". It's a good thing that I have spent so much time here over the past year and a half and learned as much as I have or I would be over the edge. I have been blessed incredibly by the Lord and that along with these BB has provided a lit path to walk down in this walk for my marriage.
I don't trust H as far as I can throw him at this point and since I had detached almost completely in preparation for my divorce, this doesn't hurt as bad as it could.
I cannot enforce NC nor do I intend to, but does anyone have any suggestions about how to handle a sitch like this?
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." -Eleanor Roosevelt. M-42, H-42. M-22yrs, together 27yrs, Sep 5yrs. D-22, S-18 I'm a survivor
