My husband has been having a "friendship" with another woman. I have always been suspicious, but cell phone records and a drunk late night call by him confirmed it. The night I caught him he was very apologetic and scared of what would happen(don't take the kids) but once he got sober he is now acting defensive and irritated that I keep asking detailed questions about the OW.
He has agreed to go to counseling, but it totally downplaying the situation and making me feel that I am trying to make of it than there is. He keeps claiming that there is nothing more to tell other than they talk on the phone and go to lunch, but my gut says there is more. He claims the reason he will go to counseling is because he has been miserable for 5 years.
I haven't eaten or slept for days and cannot get the images I have created out of my head. I just want him to admit that it is more and get the details so we can move on. I know each time I push, I get farther away, but I just feel so helpless and betrayed. I can't live like this and feel like I will have a breakdown before our first counseling session.
I have read both books, but feel if I back off I am letting him get away with it and we will never get to the bottom of this.
