If you don't mind me asking, how long did your A last? I feel that H is getting too comfortable with the situation as he has the best of both worlds and it will never end. Am also starting to wonder if I could ever really love/trust him again. Maybe it's better to end it now while S is too young to understand much.
No, I don't mind you asking. To tell you the truth, my A with H best friend might have lasted several months. I can't recall. Can you believe it? I ruined my M due to the A and can't recall details about the A. Shows how insignificant it really was. The more I think about it, the more I see how I could have been going through a MLC. According to DR, the life span of an A is about 6 months. And allowing your H to chase his fantasy may shock him back to reality.
Originally Posted By: geordie
I will try and give H more attention....all but ignored him this morning even though he was trying to be nice and cleared all the snow off the drive as soon as he got out of the car after his 2hr drive. I did make dinner this morning and told him it was there when he was hungry (while I was at work, which is a 180 for me since he was the chef in our house!). I am also making links with other people and trying to get out of the house even if I take S with me. Do feel better for it.
I applaud you!!! Sounds like you are back on track to your resourceful self. I need to learn how to cook. (That is part of my 180 as well).
Originally Posted By: geordie
I hope your DB techniques are working for you. Please let me know how things go with you.
At times I feel I have made progress, then at others I am not so sure. Whether I am able to get my H back or not, I know at least I have "left no stone unturned". One less regret. And if you continue to DB, you will be in a much better position mentally for yourself.
