It's really a conflicting situation for me and I think your both right. I confided in my Brother and he said the same thing about making sure her intentions are honest. He told me that when I first separated from her that he's never seen me in worse shape emotionally in my life and he's right. I've always been an optimistic person. He told me he didn't want to see me like that again and I agreed I didn't want to feel like that again.
You guys know how painful this experience is. I DO NOT want to go through that all over again. I'm in a very good place now and have healed thanks in large part to this board, my friends and family. I have my second wind. I'm enjoying life again where it was so bleak a year ago. I don't want to get sucked back in to those dark emotions I felt back then. On the other hand, I don't want to close the door on my kids having their Dad around nor do I want to dismiss her all together if she does truly love me and wants to try and have a more rewarding and fulfilling M with me.
I'm going to take your advice. Actions speak louder than words so I'll wait and see what her actions are telling me before I decide if I want her back.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
