No, it's not a game or any real need I have. In my mind, my M was over. I tried to reach W many times over for a long period, but she didn't want to have anything to do with me. I didn't intend on anything with the OW past a friendship. I guess things kind of progressed beyond what I thought they could or should. The OW is good company, we have similar interest, and we get along great. We go out with each other once or twice a week. I think She feels for me more so than I do for her. I have been honest with her the whole time and didn't make any promises. She keeps questioning my feelings for her.
I didn't start dating until about 3 or 4 months ago. I'm not even sure dating is the right word because I really wasn't looking for anything beyond friendship and new friends. I was just networking. I was seeing OW from 22 yrs of age up to 50. I was really having a good time and keeping it light as possible. I would usually cut off contact if I thought OW was getting to serious, but this last older OW really caught me with my guard down and seduced me before I knew what happened.
Now, I don't know what to do. Had dinner together with my W tonight before work. This would not be happening just a month or two ago. She told me tonight she is still thinking about reconciling with me. She knows about the OW. I couldn't think of anything to say in response to her. I mean, what do you say to "I'm thinking about getting back together with you"?
I still love her, but I don't know if I want to commit to a Woman who "has to think about it". Is this normal for a returning spouse that they have to think about it? Wouldn't they say they still love you and want to try and make it work? I know breaking it off with OW would hurt her feelings and I'm really not looking forward to facing that possibility. I don't want W to come back to me if it isn't out of love. I know I wouldn't take her back unless she gave up OM, so I guess that would be the real test. W is so guarded with her feelings that it drives me nuts wondering how to approach this.
Any advice or guidance would be appreciated. If anyone is going through "piecing", I'd really like to know how your returning S approached you with the ideal of reconciling.
"It is curious that physical courage should be so common in the world and moral courage so rare." -Mark Twain
