Martelo: She already went on the retreat. Yes, she is a practicing Buddhist. She uses my (I think very reasonable) desire for sex as a perfect example of an "attachment" which causes me "suffering."
Lil:My goal is to get this issue back on the table, in front of her, so that she can't continue to ignore it, think that I'm okay with it, etc. The message is, what are WE going to do about this? The message I want her to get is, "he is not going to let this go this time. He means business. This is a 'make or break' issue with him. He's not going to accept my deflection any more."
Thanks, lil. I needed to think about that, and see it in writing.
