As for the "personals", I cringed because this is where the whole A started. He was associated with escorts and this time he said he was just "checking" to see if her ad was still there. He is of the opinion he did "this" to help her, and the C even agrees with it (to some extent). H has a lot of issues (including adoption, self-esteem, unable to trust women etc. etc. etc. etc.)
I hear ya Cat when you say to keep the gathering of information to a minimum. I have been unbelieveable (in my eyes) as to restraining myself regarding the "snooping". The only reason this came to light is H was on the computer, which he rarely, rarely does, and when I went to type in an address for a web site I use for work, this other one popped up - otherwise I never would have known (which sometimes I wish was the case). My luck, his loss - or the other way around? Either way, we talked about it last night, he apologized and said he didn't realize it would hurt me so much AND that he never got through to the personal ads anyway.
When we discussed it, I said "so what if you would have found her ad there" and he said "well then I would know that it was a total waste of time and it would be easier for me to move on, but right now I feel as though I should be there and that she needs me". Then I said, and what if you didn't find the ad there, what difference would it make? Perhaps she just didn't put the ad in that week." He agreed that it probably didn't matter one way or the other.
I am now trying not to stress out about a medical appointment he has to go to at the end of February - guess where, Yup you guessed it, back to the same city where she lives - agrrrrrr
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
