"With the former, you miss it and just end up feeling more crappy about what a loser you are."
Low self-esteem type reaction.
"Looks like Wednesday, February 14, is "go" day."
Isn't that Valentine's Day? Or am I in bizzaro land again.
"Anyway, I figure that, to calm down any possibility of hard feelings, I'd bake her a cake. I think her favorite is dark chocolate."
Supplicating and not congruent with your feelings.
"It's just that, given the choice between bringing up the sex-less marriage talk, and, say, sticking red-hot needles in my eyes, it's a no-brainer. Fire up that needle kiln."
Conflict avoidance, couched in humor for sure, but still ...
Maybe it is just me, but if you want your W to take you seriously on this issue, there needs to be no conflict avoidance, no placating, no low self-esteem, and minimal humor.
Hey, not trying to bust your balls, I could say the exact same things about how I tend to handle things. Just food for thought.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
