Stubborn I havebeen know to swing a few 2X4's everynow and then when needed. However, she knows exactly what she needs to do she just needs to start doing it. Her and I have talked about this several time but she is just not ready to detatch. She is still letting her emotions drive her actions and it is playing a big role in pushing the Hubby away.
Sorry NGU but it is the truth.
Look back at your sitch and look at the responses you have gotten from him when you were that caring loving W that was in a positive mood and did not try and win him back.
He was confused about what he wanted to do wasn't he. By the way is a very good sign for you.
Now look at the response you get when you talk R with him and try to win him back with words....
He talks about D and Seperation. Get it yet?
You are as hard headed as I am and eventually you will figure all of this out. I have.
Actually I am getting pretty good response from my W once I just let go. She is getting pissed off at me and is trying to control everything I do in her own sick and twisted way. This is an expected response. It shows that she still cares and that she is mad that I am not letting her control my everyactions anymore. Now I am not saying that the W and I will get back together and I am not saying that we will but at least I know she still cares and it hurts to see me happy and moving on. It just plays into her confusion about the stupid sh!t she is doing. Not to mention I have become so much closer to my S and D through this process it is not funny.
I hope you are starting to get the picture here sister.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
