Thanks for the responses. I know that not telling the OW how I feel about her continuing to try and worm her way back into H life is the right thing to do but it would feel so good to tell her she is a sicko and she needs to get on with her on life.
Afterall H has been home with me for so long now and hasnt made any attempt to be with her doesnt she get it!!! Why would a woman continue to seek contact with him if she wastn a nutcase.