I forgot to respond regarding my moving out. My wife and I have already agreed that she will have the kids the majority of the time. This is a hard thing for me, but actually was not such a hard decision. Early on I consulted with one of the best lawyers in the area and he told me I had absolutely no chance of getting the kids the majority of the time. As a result I decided it would be better to keep things amicable rather than fight a battle that I couldn't win.
We agreed that post-divorce I would more out and she would stay (if it is economically feasible). We have a decent net worth, but half of it is tied up in the home. If we actually split the assets 50/50 (and probably pretty close to that on my income) things get kind of tight for both of us. Fun.
My lawyer advises I refuse to move out until the divorce (or legal separation) are final as doing otherwise would weaken my visitation arguments should things turn nasty later. Upon further questioning, I am not wholly sure that this is correct. There are some arguments for moving out sooner to let her experience the change of my being gone and also give her more space. The arguments against, however, are that she will not see my changes as readily and may just start moving on. I am inclined to stay.
Is this all miserable or what? Anyway, enough about me, can I do anything for you? How are you?
