No worries geordie. Just glad I could somehow contribute my own thoughts with regard to your sitch. If you two ladies have the time, I was hoping you can read up on my own dilema. Perhaps you might be able to learn something from it and/or offer your insights from your own point of view. Please post your response in my own thread keeping this one as geordie's very own. Thanks in advance.
Aside from the DB book, here is a site that I found a while back that I found helpful in answering a lot of my own questions when I first suspected my W's affair started. The links to the articles are to the left of the webpage. Hope it helps.