As far as the legal seperation goes. I believe that after a year you do not need to sign for a seperation. However before that you do. A legal seperation you have to agree on everything.
As far as the OW goes. When she calls tell her nicely that you do not think it is a good idea that you two are talking and leave it at that. You do not have to talk to her nor do you have to listen to her. By talking to her you are pushing your H further away. If it were me I would tell him to have her quit calling you because you really have nothing that the two of you need to be talking about. Let you H control the OW. It will make him realize that she is the one initiating the conv as well as you not wanting to talk to her thus she will be putting pressure on your H with her actions.
Cheer yourself up all is not lost yet. However you do need to let go and let him come back to you.
AMYC said this well on UA's thread.
If you believe in god (truely believe in god), then you have nothing to worry about...Let God do his work and let him guide you in the direction you need to go. It is definitly time to just let go...You need to emotionally detatch from him and let him see what he is missing. Your words are not going to bring him back. It is your actions that need to bring him back.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
