Thank you so much for your words. I need to re-read DR! If you don't mind me asking, how long did your A last? I feel that H is getting too comfortable with the situation as he has the best of both worlds and it will never end. Am also starting to wonder if I could ever really love/trust him again. Maybe it's better to end it now while S is too young to understand much.
I will try and give H more attention....all but ignored him this morning even though he was trying to be nice and cleared all the snow off the drive as soon as he got out of the car after his 2hr drive. I did make dinner this morning and told him it was there when he was hungry (while I was at work, which is a 180 for me since he was the chef in our house!). I am also making links with other people and trying to get out of the house even if I take S with me. Do feel better for it.
Reason I think MLC also: moved out without warning; bought new car even though we were just making ends meet financially, bought new clothes, changed appearance, changed mailing address, got new cellphone (different area code). Guess this one may take a long time to end......not sure if I can wait it out
I hope your DB techniques are working for you. Please let me know how things go with you.
Me 36 ring on H 41 ring off S2 Together since 1992 Married: 2000 Bomb Aug 06 H moved out Oct 06 (and straight in with OW)
