BND I have been reading your latest stitch (I can't find your earlier ones on this new site) and I would love to get some advice from you. I noticed that you & your H had some privacy issues - could i ask what they were, and i would love for you to drop by my stitch and see the letter i would like to write to my H - to see if you think it would be wise to sent to him. My H is still at home - and I think is trying to work (50% which is a start) on our relationship - after i gave him the either her or me speach, and yet I have this gut feeling that they are still in contact with each other. I would love to hear from you All the best and God bless you and your H as he comes home! Ash