Am I piecing? I am sooooo confused

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Well, just when I thought things were ticking along pretty good, I get a major setback.

And does it ever end? It must. Or at least it must get better a little at a time and the time between shocks increases.

it was the "personals" in the paper where we USED to live - where the OW still lives

I don't understand what he would be looking for in the personals. Couldn't he just visit or call the OW?

I know his actions hurt you. They would hurt me in your spot too. But what is his motive? Is he still morning the OLD affair? Is he still morning his old life, or is he looking to start it up again?

I've been told that the WAS will contact the OP again (or at least high probability that they will). It's part of the process. Even though it seems so unfair and hurtful to me, they are hurting in their own way. I don't have to understand it, but I can sympothise and validate the feeling. Maybe this applies to you and your H too? Can you understand how he might miss the R he had with OW, no matter how wrong it was?

Granted, I'm not living your sitch, but things still sound positive to me. You and he are talking, seeing MC, figuring out where and what the problems are, and he is willing to make an effort. sounds good to me.

what do you think?