In Retrouvaille you spend the weekend doing a series of exercises designed to teach you a method of communicating called dialogue. It is communication on a feeling level. You learn to understand and not judge each other’s feelings. Feelings are neither right nor wrong. We learn to just accept each others feelings by writing about our feelings and then talking about them in a specific way.
Lasts nights homework was a little dicier. S9 had a friend over and they were so loud. We were both tired and somewhat impatient. But, we managed to do it anyway and were both relieved when we were able to complete it. Not relieved, like thank God that’s over but thank God we could actually do it while things were less then perfect and leave without either one of us being upset.
I feel closer to H. I just don’t trust my feelings where he is concerned.
H is without a job right now so I am quite stressed over this as well.
Andrea: They have Retrouvaille all over the world. If you want to e-mail me and let me know where you live I can see if they have one there. If you can get your H to go it would be really great. It was great sleeping next to H again actually. Thanks for your well wishes. Most of the “tips” we got this weekend are similar to what we get here. I will try to post more of my impressions as time goes on. Take care hon!
Debm: You should absolutely go. The couples that participated ran the gamut from severely damaged to just needing to learn better communication skills. It is remarkable and for any lingering feelings that you have about your H’s MLC it would be very helpful. Go! They have an internet site. I think it’s WWW. Retrouvaille.com.
I do still need your prayers. Things are moving in the right direction but until we are actually sleeping in the same room, I just don’t know… Hugs to you my dear!
AlexN, So happy to see you visit me! I’m not sure whether it’s patience or inertia? At what point did you and H go to Retrouvaille. I didn’t remember that you had gone. Thank you for hoping it would be like a lightening bolt striking my H. I for one did not allow myself to hope for that much. Yes, smiling after I’ve been around my H for an entire weekend is a feat in and of itself. I pray that this is the light at the end of the tunnel. I’m so glad to see you posting. I told Barb to give you a hug for me. When you see her be sure and collect it.
Frosty, so happy to have you visit over here. Thanks for your thoughts this weekend they sure did help. So what's this about 2 men in your life??!!!?? Enjoy yourself! You deserve it!
I hope everyone is well.
I hope to catch up with how everyone is doing soon. Until then my prayers are with you.
