I need some help today. OW called me last night and I ended up in a discussion with her for 1 1/2 hours. Not good. And of course H found out that we were talking. She keeps stirring up crap and I keep getting blamed for it. She informed me that H was going to file for seperation. So nice of her to inform me of this. She kept trying to tell me how good of a person she was....you can't fool me. I told her that she was a hypocrit (sp?) She can go to church and have her faith but then go back to an affair??!??!? WTH??? I wasn't trying to reason with her because there is no reasoning with the mentally deficient.

I really need some advice right now. I spoke with H last night and I know that nothing I say will bring him around. He is going to have to hit the lowest of lows. But what I did say to him, which I think got him thinking twice about D, was that if he should go the S or D route, then I will have no legal obligations to allow him to see his kids whenever he wants. It will be court ordered days and nothing else. He said that maybe he needs for me to walk away for him to realize what he has. How dumb can he be? If I walk away, then it will be too late for him. I guess I am just about at that point.

Can someone help me? I also need to know if I have to agree to a legal separation for it to go through.

"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."