Cobra, From what I gather, HP's version of LDness is different from your W's. She may be feeeling guilty because she used to be the driving force, but she is not avoidant and enjoys herself once the action gets going. She would be even more into it if her H were more comfortable in the initiator role. And you are unlike HP's H because you are okay with asserting your sexuality and pushing the issue.
I do feel for the men on the board who are HD and trying to push their wives along. I was able to have a degree of success because I felt comfortable pushing sex on my H without fear ( the fear being that you are somehow a rapist). I think that's why Hdog started thinking about presenting this as a " right" of his...he's going to have to work through some of the nice guy stuff to get anywhere. In that way, the HD women have it a bit easier.
