Living independent lives attributed to the breakdown of our M too. But I was the one that had the A. When I was in the midst of my A, I too believed the OM was my soul mate. Now that I am out of the fog, I realized I can never be more wrong.
When I spoke to the DB coach she told me to utilize 180 and GAL. So, even though independence contributed to the breakdown of the M, DB can still be done. I think the main result is for you to be healthy mentally even if you are not in the R with your H.
But when H is in my prescene to give him my undivided attention.
She asked me why my H was attracted to me and to become that person again. She also asked what made us a couple and to emphasize that.
I am not too far into the process myself, so I hope what I am able to provide helps.
