I'd like to welcome you to this forum. You will find a lot of good advice from the wonderful people that are here to save their marriage/relationships. Take what you need and leave what you don't. Since you already have the DB book, you are one step to saving your marriage. Once you've GAL'ed (Get A Life) and achieve sort of a PMA (Positive Mental Attitude)you might find that the pain will ease a bit. It may still be there but you'll have better control of your emotions. You need to process all your emotions don't hold them back it's not healthy for you or your child. In my case,I took the advice of people that have been DB'ing for while and tried very hard not to let my emotions get the better of me particularly in front of my W. You can keep sort of a journal like this post of yours and add on to it whenever you can. You will most likely realize later on that most, if not all, the DB'ing techniques you'll learn are for YOU. Browse the other other topics for ideas for GAL, 180's, etc. I'm sure others will chime in later to give you some comments and/or suggestions. I'll see if I can find other reading materials on affairs that might help you. For now, you should read up on the DB book regarding infedility. You've got a lot of work ahead of you so hang in there. Right now just concentrate on YOU and your child's well being.
