Stuck in the Tunnel-3 Stages at Once

[I_Still_Love_Him]

EH...I'm glad my post to Nicola has helped you some and thank you for stopping by my thread.

I think you received some good advice already wrt MLC and how long it can last. It is not an exact science although I did put a timeline together, just as a guideline, to help me determine when it may have started for my H and possibly when it could end. You could read it in my thread
Thread #6- Preparing for a New Year & New Beginning continues

What I have come to understand is that you don't put your life on hold. Do not choose between waiting for your H to return OR start dating. Think of it as LIVING. Allow what God has planned for you, to happen.

Most of us met our S without really looking for them, but we met, became friends and then a R grew. So what if this is what God wants for you down the road? Will you reject it, still waiting for your H? I know some people may disagree with me but there is nothing wrong with making new friends of the opposite sex. If something develops, it is up to you where you want to take it; continue to simply be friends or take it to the next level. Just like you can not control your H's decision to return, why allow him to control the direction of your life.

If you and your H are meant to be, it will be whether you sit and wait or whether you find other open doors. Sometimes, if the WAS suspects that there may be OP, they start to notice. If they don't then, you will also know. Yes, the longer the MLCer's journey, the slimmer the chance of reconciliation but it is not impossible.

I do not believe that God wants us to wait for something that may never happen. What a waste of a beautiful life. God wants us to learn...learn that we need to go through this time to correct our own issues...learn that in doing so, our WAS will notice and return, or....learn that we have become a better human being and it is time to share ourself with someone else.

So, IMO, just LIVE and enjoy life and see what happens.