Me2: You could be beating a dead horse.... he may truley have put it behind him.. it may truley have just been one of those.. shoot it happened.. she was available.. I was lonely things.. with no other reason behind it and he may truley be glad its over because while he enjoyed it physically he did feel guilty and want to come back to you and he did come back to you! Now yes, he could have and should have exercised self control and thought about consequences.. but he didn't and maybe that is part of her personality that you need to learn to accept.. that he doesn't think things through! But I can say that you need to let go eventually so that you can heal your marriage... if he feels constantly nagged and/or castigated by you.. he will eventually get frustrated and start to wonder if saving the marriage is worth all the grief and aggravation you are putting him through... so be honest with him.. but if your qestions are consistently met with the same answers.. top asking them... he'll give you answers when he is ready... but maybe he needs some time.. haven't you ever done something you regretted? You probably just want to put it behind you as well and stop examining the why and hows? Focus on building trust again andsome good memories.. healing will come in time! Good luck
