I think my H now is ready to start to be his own man, and maybe I should give him that chance with someone else
Where did this come from? Are you saying you should release him to be with another woman?
Ambivalence is very 4-ish. Just about wherever we are, we want to be somplace else... until we get there. This is really the main reason why I don't think another R or another partner is the answer for me-- at least not yet, not at this point. The discontent is within me. Not that another partner might not be easier to get along with, have fewer troubling issues, etc., but I can almost guarantee that I would find something to be major-league discontented about within a year or two. That has been my pattern in every other R. I have no reason to believe it would be any different with anyone else.
