HP, I think the anger your H feels towards you is really self anger; he is feeling he is imposing on you, and is feeling guilty about his sexual needs, which are more obvious to him now that you are LD. He is giving in to his sexuality without having you coaxing him the whole way. It's a big step towards him owning his feelings.
Also, since you now have a week break on a monthly basis, maybe this is a good time to get it into your head to be more aggressive towards him. He gets some refueling and a break from the leadership role, and it doesn't distract from the ultimate goal ( he is still chief initiator when it comes to intercourse, and over time you can try to extinguish some of the more wishy-washy behavior). BTW, I am 44, and in the last yr, I have gotten more irregular with my period ( I've been pretty regular up until now)...H has actually verbalized that he misses those breaks because it revs up his drive. And then he gets conflicted about having a revved up drive. IOW, you can't win,lol.
