Mermaid, The coldness is all part of the ride for your h. He feels he needs to be cold and possibly distant so that you get the message that he's over the marriage/relation and you. Don't buy it for one minute. He's being a bit passive-aggressive in taking responsiblity for what he did, but apologies may not come for a very long time. At least, in my situation, it took almost six years to hear an apology for everything that happened in the marriage, but not for the behavior while crisis. Trust me, you'll hear an apology later on and it just might be too late, we don't know at this time.
Yes, we are all tossed to the side of the road liked garbage and it's not a pleasant feeling. However, do you know what? You'll rise above all of this and you will go on w/your life and you just might be pleasantly surprised in a little while just how nice it is not to have to worry about what he's doing, thinking or how he might react to what you say or do.
Hang in there. Your next chapter hasn't been written yet and you will find the strength, self-respect and dignity to continue to hold your head up high and march forward. Never under estimate yourself. You are stronger than you think and w/two young daughters, you will be there every step of the way for them.
Mermaid, don't look back, look to the future. We can't change the past, we can live in the present and think about what we would like to do in the future. I have a feeling that your future will be a very promising one.
