New here - W unwilling to work on it

[30andLost]

I had a significant challenge today to my resolve to be a changed man.

I was checking my e-mail this morning and noticed that my W had sent an e-mail to her mom with some pictures in it. Since it was in my e-mail, I opened it up. I discovered that she got a tatoo over an old tatoo that had my name in it.

At first I was livid, insecure, and wanted to know right away what it meant. I called her, she was in class with her phone off so I didn't leave a VM. I texted her asking "Please call me on your way to work." I am glad that is all I did. I then texted her "Nevermind."

I have to hold onto hope that she hasn't filed for Divorce and that covering the tatoo can mean the worst, but I could also be reading too much into it and push her away by grilling her about it. So if she decides to show it to me, she doesn't yet know that I know about it, I will just say, "It looks good. That old tatoo did need to be fixed somehow" and leave it at that.

I feel comfortable with this and will only get more comfortable with it as time passes. I have to believe that God is watching out for me and will let my marriage work if he chooses and if it is in my best interest. If not, I have to be ok with myself in knowing that I've done all I can.

Let me know what you think. Or if I should take a different approach.

Thanks!