flip flops--and I aint at the beach

[MJontheMend]

Well, according to BF, you and I are right on time with our current changes in perspective so maybe he could offer some insight. I haven't flipped to LD but I would say that I am not really HD either but sort of in some limbo land where I can understand either perspective. I think the common denominator here is that you are reacting to a lack of manliness or perceived manliness from your H. You are just reacting differently. I can see this in myself because many moons ago back in my HD days, I might have reacted to my H's recent job meltdown by becoming more sexual rather than slightly less sexual which is currently the case. It might be due to some biological changes but it really doesn't matter what the underlying factor is in your change of modus operandi. You are still reacting to what you perceive as "bad" behavior on your H's part, you are just choosing to pick up a wee bitty stick instead of force-feeding him some humongous carrots.