Well, I thought I would update all my adoring fans out there Old What is is flying high the last few days. Has my sitch improved? Hell NO but I have. Suddenly I have discovered the old energetic, get out there and do it guy! The last 1.5 months have been both physically and mentally draining, I guess it's the closest I've come to depression. But, Sunday I woke up, got my butt out of bed and went to church. Last night I headed off to a new aerobics class (my old teached invited me), tonight is BR dance and Thursday I'm off to Yoga, which I just re-started as well. Whatis is feeling optimistic for some reason, not necessarily about my M but about life. I'm gonna run with this and let myself re-energize for a bit. I guess what I've learned here is that the things always change, even when you feel you are at your worst.. it will change. Take heart DBers!
Glad to see you are taking care of yourself Whatisis - good man!!
Now make sure you continue on that path, regardless of what life throws at you
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
Do you have some of that coffee you're drinking? Or is it an herbal tea? Pass some of that positiveness over here, OK?
I'm not flying as high as you are, but I do need to pick myself up. I'm trying to help others out on the BB's and not dwell so much on me and my own sitch. I'm not really down, but sliding a bit. Guess I'm doing a lot of thinking about the past. In a way it helps to see where I have gone wrong, and I try to remind myself that all my problems started with me. Though my W also is partly to blame - but I'm not going into any blaming at all. Just reflecting on my past R with my W I guess.
Man, I need to get back into the game!!! My W just woke up and she came right up to me and gave me a hug - - - That's another first! Well, since she came back from trip with OM....sorry - I had to bring "him" up, huh? But my W is here with me, and I am biding my time and learning all about patience. Did I mention how impatient I am?
Anyways, glad to see another DBer doing great!!
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
That's called GAL!!!!! HUGE kudos to you dude!!!! It does feel good to GAL. I remember the last two years of my marriage feeling sort of blah and unloved (and I didn't have an affair!), and GALing sort of "woke me up." Kind of like "sleeping beauty" waking up after living in some dream. It's nice to "live" again.
So keep GALing (church, aerobics, yoga... even parasailing if you're near some water!!!) and building the PMA!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
Thanks everybody! tonite was BR Dance II lesson 3 and w told me, when I questioned a sequence she was doing, "I'm always right, don't you know that!" I still don't know if that was a serious statement or she was just playing with me! She was smirking somewhat. She was in a great mood tonight and we actually laughed loudly together at one of our screw ups. It felt good to laugh TOGETHER at something again. On the way to class (we actually small talked in the car) and she asked me if I intended to go every Mon to my aerobics class. I said I hoped to but had also told the teacher I probably would miss a few. She said "I have always held off planning anything for Monday because i wanted to preserve at least one family night for us all. You can do what you like but that was my hope anyway" She had the opportunity to take a different class on Mondays but stayed with Friday (although its not as good a class) because she wanted to keep that night open. I replied that I understood her point and could make some changes to my schedule to keep at least one night open. Between our individual schedules and the kids activities it's tough to do. I have now adjusted my schedule, after consulting with her, and we have come up with a plan the works for everybody! Wow, a nice night and team work! I gotta lie down. BTW the aerobics I do is called Nia (No Impact Aerobics) it is a combination of martial arts, yoga, Tai Chi, dance, and much more. It is all put together to music and is a damn good workout! If anybody wants to work off some stress, get some cardio in then check out nia-nia.com for more info. Just remember, all you lonely guys, you'd probably be the only male in the class, I know I am!!
In regards to my last post, here's the kicker! For years W complained that I never did anything and now she's having to talk to me about curtailing my activities. Talk about a big 180, eh! Wow, if she only knew the stuff I don't go to, like church poker night. I swear, we have a monthly poker night, part of every pot goes to the church. We figure if Catholics can have bingo, we can have poker! I could be out every night if I wanted to be. But, of course, family is where I want and need to be but I'm not putting me aside any longer either. She always complained I was too much of a "family man" (which meant she was being ignored). No more, baby!!!!
Tom, just got back from Yoga class. Yep, I'm on a PMA roll! What's my W's name again? Hey, everybody start checking out my thread so that I too can get one of those cool little fires beside my thread! I'll bet fire symbol beside CM's thread is a raging red inferno, I'll have to drop by with a water bucket or something! So, remember with 150 views I get a little fire symbol too. Help me out folks!
Old What is is flying high the last few days. Has my sitch improved? Hell NO but I have. Suddenly I have discovered the old energetic, get out there and do it guy! The last 1.5 months have been both physically and mentally draining, I guess it's the closest I've come to depression. But, Sunday I woke up, got my butt out of bed and went to church. Last night I headed off to a new aerobics class (my old teached invited me), tonight is BR dance and Thursday I'm off to Yoga, which I just re-started as well. Whatis is feeling optimistic for some reason, not necessarily about my M but about life. I'm gonna run with this and let myself re-energize for a bit. I guess what I've learned here is that the things always change, even when you feel you are at your worst.. it will change. Take heart DBers! 