Thank-you both for posting. I ordered the book already, thank-you so much. I really think u are onto something with the whore/ madonna complex. I have this very slutty friend who my husband thinks is so dirty or so he says, but when he is around her he makes sexual comments and gazes at her. He would never act like that in front of my other friends. As for the porn thing, my husband does look at it from time to time but usually I am in the room. He has no idea how to use a chat room and we don't have a web cam. We used to occassionally watch porn because it would get him in the mood but now it just enrages me that he needs someone else to turn him on and specifically that I cannot. I will take you advice and try not to get ahead of myself and expect too much. I feel like maybe I left it too late, I feel so broken and vulnerable and resentful. I really need to get back to a more positive approach and both of u have really helped me with that!
