Thanks...Yup...doing it all. (yes, even the praying, I have found a strengthened relationship with God helps)
Matter of fact, just made another appt with C for next week. At his suggestion, we have been going since Dec. Every two weeks for about the first 8 sessions, then it's gone to every 5-6 weeks. C has SBT ideals, has read the DB book and believes in it's value-she also is saying we are close to "firing" her, as should be our goal.
I know I need patience. He has to work through it and I have to let him. However, I don't think he wants to work through it, he'd just rather forget it. He told me last weekend he didn't feel any loss/miss her/feelings of 'hard to let her go' etc, and didn't feel anything but relief when he cut it off with OW because he wanted it as far behind him as possible. (I asked these questions directly-I have been wondering for some time, and brought them up in an offer to help him through that pain-to which he says is none)-yes, this made me HAPPY!
I told him I appreciated his honesty.
I suppose this is my hurdle to overcome now-the whole idea of why, what went wrong and how to fix it to recognize and prevent it in the future.
It's frustrating tho, 'everything is fine/ok/great' when really underneath, it's a nightmare. This is how our marriage was before(?), things were not dealt with, the larger issues not addressed and he admits it's easier to ignore them-but when it comes to a head...watch out. I just don't want to go there again, I don't want that this time.
Or....are there some times when there isn't a why? Isn't anything to fix? Nothing to prevent? (gee, that sounds a whole lot like trust in the marriage-and that's what got me in to trouble last time too).
I'm beginning to wonder; did I make up this whole A or what?? (If so, I must really be some kind of sicko.)
