Honestly, the fights that really went down the road of seperation where at the same time he began the A. It was mostly about him running out of the house every night to go out with his friends. (Now I know that it wasn't to be with his friends...but to be with OW) And spending money when we really didn't have money to spend.
At times it would be about him not helping with the kids. He wouldn't want to do things with the me and the kids. Would spend his time sleeping while I was trying to take care of everything in the house.
He told me a few weeks ago that he doesn't feel like he is part of the family. I just told him that I understand but that I have had to learn to cope without him for the past 4 months. He also says that we didn't do too many things by ourselves. But when I have invited him to do things with me recently, he would give me a "we will see" answer. And it never pans out. I guess I could ask him again but I know that she will be part of the answer and he will say no. But all I can do is ask.
I know that one of my faults was always putting the kids first. Trying to keep them on a schedule. I don't know that is a bad thing but apparently it is to him.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
