I think that they have to know that we desire them physically and emotionally. If you are trying to reconnect, you have to do so on all levels of your R. My W and had to do the deed in order for her to know that I could handle that part of our R. It was imperative that she see me as better in that arena of our lives. They do run like rabbits don't they, wouldn't it be nice if they wanted to do something else like rabbits????