Thanks Ducky for such a good read. Alot to think about. Ive been staying away from this board for a couple weeks, I feel I was getting obsessed with it, made it hard to go on. I keep looking here for some magic answer, when I know there really is none. Just go on with my life the best I can with my girl's and let the peices fall into place.
Oldest D turned 17 last weekend. I of course made it a big deal. had a old fashion B-day party with hats and blow horns. Something I use to do when she was younger. Next year she turns into an adult and will really be to old for these kid things, But I wanted it to be fun for her and I think she liked it. (she always say's, "Dad is a big kid".) She got phone calls from some of her relatives, only Mom never called. She was a little down that evening because of this and I told her I was so sorry that she forgot, but she has to understand that what she's going through....
Yesterday, Her mother called and wished her a Happy B-day. Caitlin told her thanks but she was a day late. Her mother told her she was sorry she forgot and swore it was today, even told Grandma it was today. Funny she said that. Grandma called the day before wishing Caitlin a happy B-day. The lies continue. Anyway...Caitlin didn't accept the appology and kept the convo. short, told her she had to go because I was taking her and her sister out to dinner. Not a lie, just a couple hour off.
Ducky. I really want to believe that what the gentleman told you was true. But at times, its really hard. I see these kids going through so much pain and even though I am starting to harden my heart for this woman. I bothers me that this is happening to me.
I don't believe that she is all that happy.
I feel that new husband is controling her actions not to have a relationship with daughters.
And most of all, if she is so happy. WHy is she still spewing accusations at me and my actions?
Her sister is coming in around Feb 13. She wants to take the girls out for dinner. Grandma is NOT allowed to go. Im thinking that she has some things she wants to dicuss with the girls and not have Grandma interfear. The girls are a little worried about this and frankly, so am I. Sister in law has always been on the side of ex and has a way of minipulating. Who knows what is up her sleeve. I can't trust any of them. but I know my girls will not buy into the BS. They've been on the hurting end too many times.
