I like that you're doing so well. Sometimes it's hard to keep in mind where we were and appreciate where we are today. This is most likely true for all of us including our spouses. I think keeping expectations down and just appreciating little things is good. I also think it doesn't hurt (during piecing) to express a good amount of love and affection. For example, I'm a pretty expressive person so I generally give a lot in all my relationships (friendships, parenting, family, etc...). Since my husband is someone I care about and love I'm going to express this to him too and not withhold it just because he's not as expressive to me. Hey, my kids aren't so expressive either... but that's not going to stop me with them!!!