Thank you for your response! I think in your case you are quite right to move on if you have met someone you really like and want to be with.
If your STBX does want to come back he will have to realise that ,sooner rather than later.. or sounds like it is nearly too late. But it certainly helps to have a new person around. bosts the confidence, eases the loss and loneliness. I think you are right to hang onto the house as long as suits you.. your life may have been different.. may have had big house of your own if not married family etc.. I do not know. I certainly put my career to the back burner and lost seniority to go part time due to H's wish , raising our sons,and to support his career moves. If he is being secretive then trust him as far as you can throw him.. protect yourself.
