Not sure where H and I stand. I am sure in his mind that he is still set on a D but hasn't brought it up since the other night. He was actually pretty polite last night when he came over to see the kids. He asked me how my MC went and I told him fine. I told him that he was welcome to join anytime he wanted. He nodded. I don't know if his convo with his dad yesterday is weighing on his mind. His dad pretty well sat him down and told him that his world was going to continue to crumble. (same thing I have been telling him) H sat there and listened. I don't know what to think. I feel ok right now but don't know where the weekend will take me.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Quote: Not sure where H and I stand. I am sure in his mind that he is still set on a D but hasn't brought it up since the other night.
Assignment for this weekend: assume nothing, expect nothing. Be surprised and pleased about anything positive that does happen! Practice really letting go--you can do it, but it takes a lot of effort. I'm pulling for you!
Let everything run its course you are doing fine. Keep smiling and keep those kids happy. My W mentioned the D when I asked her what she wanted out of our R about a month ago and does not really talk to me about anything now. But she is crazy.
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Well, I got a nice surprise tonight. H was at the house when I got home from work. He was getting ready to head out because he said he was going to help OSU do some packing. When he was opening the door, he looked at me and said "I can tell that you are losing weight. You look good." I told him thank you and the normal "ILY" and then he left. It felt really good that he told me that he was noticing my physical change and that I looked good. Was a great feeling.
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Nothing exciting going on. Just in the fight of my life for the M. Found out he brought OW to help you pack....that did not put me in a very nice mind frame. But I didn't let on that I was upset. I had called on Saturday to see if you or H would like something to eat while you were packing.
He didn't show up yesterday because of basketball....now let him tell me his family is his priority. He did take the boys to the doctor this morning for their checkups. Then I had to call him to pick up D3 from MRDD because she had gotten sick. He said that he was headed for an interview and would call me when he got out. So he did, and asked if I had found someone to pick D3 up. I told him that I was waiting on him to call me back. He said that he didn't have a car seat but could pick her up. I asked where the car seat was and he said in his car because he was in her jeep. I heard a kid in the background and knew that she was with him. I told him I did not want him picking her up if there was anyone with him. He said fine. I told him that I would take care of it.
WTH is he thinking??? I have made it very clear that I don't want her anywhere near my kids. Does he think that I am going to back down from that.
Help me!! I don't know what I am doing right now. I know that I am suppose to stand but has he completely walked away and given up on our M???????
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
Where did you get that from..She was not there. He drove her jeep but did not help pack anything. My guess is someone drove by the house and saw her jeep there...Am I right? There you go with the assumption factor again it is a killer.
Remember no expectations or assumptions...
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
Ok, I am officially mad! He told me that she did. He was going to come back over on Saturday morning and get Q and take him over to your place with him. I called him at 12:30 to let him know that the kids and I were on our way to Zanesville to his dad's. I heard a kid in the background and asked him who it was. He said that he was at your place with her son. And said that she came with him. He told me that she came over to help you and that is why he didn't come and get Q.
This was not an assumption. This is what he told me. Why would he lie to me about her being there. Other than the fact that he didn't want to be with his own child........
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
check your email. There are things that I may say on here that will likely get me shot!
"Be patient to persevere and wait for God to heal. Keep in mind that you are both imperfect people. Look to God as the source of all you want to see in your marriage and don't worry how it will happen...Leave it in His hands."
