I heard the "just move on with your life" comment over and over to. I to waited and waited and was rejected many times over. I finally did move on, but guess what?? I got the same reaction from her that you got from your H.
I don't feel guilty about it and neither should you. We are only human and we were not the ones to walk out on our marriage without giving our partner a chance. He put you in this situation and I know you were thinking the same thing I was... that it was over!
Don't be so hard on yourself.
I guess I forgot to mention that it was with one of his friends. I think he is more upset with his friend than with me. He told me if he ever saw him again, he was going to beat the crap out of him. He said it wasnt because of us, it was because his friend betrayed him. I know I made a huge mistake and shouldn't have done what I did. It was just a one time thing. I feel so guilty. I cannot quit crying. I have tried to be with him and get him to make a decision so many times. I too would get rejected over and over. For some reason, I still love him more than anything even though he has treated me so bad for so long. The blame is being placed all on me now. He is taking no responsibility although this morning he told me that he couldnt blame me for what I did, he just didnt think I would do it. I didnt think I would either. Had our marriage been all I love yous and flowers, etc. I would have never cheated on him. I never have in the 12 years we were together until now when I was convinced that my marriage was over. He even told his parents that he had made the decision to stay and try to work things out for the kids sake. I dont know if he really was or not because he hasnt told me. I am suffering big time and I feel like a huge tramp. I just want his forgiveness but he says that there is no chance whatsoever.
