Hi Calder, Ditto - it is good to see you posting again!
I think the contact with your h is in a good range. The important thing for YOU right now is not to get upset and have your life in a twist in the days looking forward to a visit from him, and in days after the visit as you analyze the time spent together - as was true previously. You seem calmer, and I hope that is the case for you.
Also, how can your h be "a bit withdrawn" since your last visit if you only see him about once every three months anyway?
What a relief to be beyond the worst of the emotional upheaval over this isn't it? xxx Amy
